I read this post on my friend's blog, and it got me thinking.
Men have this uncanny ability to cut themselves off emotionally, even in supposedly close relationships. I don't really get it. Can anyone explain?
For as far back as my knowledge as the history of the world goes, men have been the stoic, unfeeling, strong ones. Women have been the emotional, weak ones. How did this come to be? Is this part of the inherent differences between men and women? Or a construct of early human society whose effects ripple down into all people today?
A woman whose husband is away at war is trying to get her son to sleep. He cries and refuses to sleep until he sees his father. She tells her son that her shadow on the wall is his father, to stop him from crying at night. The soldier eventually comes back and expects to be greeted enthusiastically by his son, but his son says "You're not my father. I say goodnight to my father every night before I sleep." The man, of course, suspects that his wife has been unfaithful and is silently enraged for the entire day. He refuses to eat the food his wife prepares. His wife doesn't bring up the issue, or try to explain, nor does he question her. The next day, he leaves. The wife, overcome with grief, throws herself into the river near her house. The man comes back, and as he tucks his son in at night, sees the little boy bowing to his shadow on the wall. Only then does he understand. He builds an altar in honor of his wife on the river bank, and grieves the rest of his days.
This is a story based off of a traditional Vietnamese poem. I bring it up because both the man and the woman refused to tell the other what they were thinking or feeling. Traditionally, the Vietnamese have been taught not to show emotion. I'm not sure exactly the reason, whether it's because it's a sign of weakness, or for another reason. But the married couple cut each other off emotionally because they didn't communicate, and it resulted in tragedy. The story states that they did have emotions, even though they didn't show them. Does the lack of emotion, or at least the expression of it, make them strong? Admirable, even?
Men always try to have the "I don't give a &*#!" attitude, to grossly generalize. In fact, society generally encourages it. Emotions are for women only. When women try to have this attitude, to be "strong", they are considered to be acting like men, and this is generally not looked upon with admiration, despite the whole women's rights issues that have been brought up in the past fifty years. What is it about emotion that makes men shy away from it? Is it that society has been attributed to women, the physically weaker and smaller sex, and is thus an undesirable thing? Is it that women ARE inherently emotional, and men aren't? Does a lack of emotion really make you strong?
Jay-Z was rapping about groupie girls trying to get his sex and his money. Tearria Mari and Foxy Brown were talking about a friend who was a friend no more. They wanted nothing more from him than his friendship and support. He maybe assumed that they were out for the money and fame, and dropped them faster than you can say "Jigga". Does this make him strong? "The Man"? A pimp even?
Anyway, he's supposedly married to Beyonce. And if this is the case, my only explanation for him cutting off ties with these two ladies is that he's scared Beyonce'll kill him or any woman she sees as a threat. If I were him, I'd do the same. Just listen to Ring the Alarm for proof. That woman's CRAZY.
HOW COULD YOU VOTE OFF WILL???? How could you eliminate the BEST dancer that has ever come to So You Think You Dance? The only explanation is that someone read the list backwards and put Will and Twitch in the bottom two instead of Mark and Joshua. The ONLY videos on Youtube right now from last night are Will and Twitch's partner dances, Will's solo, and Mark's solo. DOESN'T THAT TELL YOU SOMETHING???
Anyway, it's not that surprising. This is the same audience that kicked Jennifer Hudson and and Chris Daughtry from American Idol, and kept Sanjaya way longer than they needed too. People on the Fox forums have their own opinions about the audience that voted Will off, but I think one of the judges said it best that people thought Will was so great that he didn't need their votes. That's the other explanation. It makes sense, but I prefer mine.
Oh well. I guess it's America's Best Dance Crew now. Oh wait, they voted off Kaba Modern and kept Status Quo last season, and didn't even take the great dance crew/theatre company from Chicago past the live auditions this season.
Reality TV sucks.
Anyway, check out this video of Kaba Modern at the Hip Hop Internationals last year. They came second, by the way. Daughtry, who got voted of AI, has sold more albums than every American Idol winner apart from Kelly Clarkson, Carrie Underwood and Clay Aiken. Note, that Daugthry has released only one album, the others at least two. Jennifer Husdon won the Oscar, not Beyonce. Wake up, people, and open your eyes to the REAL talent.
imagine krump fed to you raw.
this is it.
NB: Twitch and Kherington's krump routine on So You Think You Can Dance this week: SICK. i didn't think the girl had it in her. If you missed it, check it out here. Kherington loses it in the end, but the first half is insane. and twitch is a beast. literally. though, not half the beast that Lil C is. Watch in high quality if you can.
